For me, I’ve felt guilty about making decisions I knew people would not support. For instance, when I decided to quit my job in the Finance industry last year, my parents went on their typical, parental rant, saying things like ” You should’ve stuck it out! We all have to work our asses off at jobs we don’t like.” or “How are you going to support yourself now? We’re tired of you mooching off us!”.
Yeah…I’m pretty sure ya’ll have heard something similar. I felt guilty about quitting, but ultimately it was the best decision I’ve ever made. My job was no longer serving my spirit and I came to terms with it. And since then I’ve been on this journey that is leading me closer and closer to my purpose: to be a healer and to help people. My parents didn’t quite understand this aspect…
Many of us make decisions we feel guilty about, not because we feel they’re the wrong things to do, but because we are affected by what other people may think. When we act in our own best interests, people may feel disappointed or won’t understand our decisions, but that is simply not our fault. When you are truly making intuitive decisions, decisions guided by your gut feelings or instinct, then you are only being true to yourself.
Feeling guilty prevents you from truly surrendering and choosing your path. It serves no purpose; not for you or for anyone else.
So next time you feel conflicted about an important decision, ask yourself a few questions:
- Am I making this decision for myself or am I making it to appease someone else?
- Does this decision truly resonant with me? Is it an intuitive decision?
- Is my decision progressing me toward my true path?
It’s time to let go of your guilty feelings, lovelies. They no longer serve you and are holding you back. When someone doesn’t understand the decisions you make, have a conversation with them. Express to them that you are doing something you feel is right for you and let go of the guilty feelings that arise from it. If they still don’t support you, then carry on. One of my favorite singers, Nikka Costa, says it best, “You can’t please everybody, no matter how hard you try”.
What kind of decisions have you made that people didn’t understand or didn’t support? How did you release your guilt? Leave your story and advice below!
About Courtney Cherae
I am the founder of HolisticEbony.com and also a Holistic Health Coach. I work with women who struggle with emotional eating, self-sabotage roadblocks, and body image issues and empower them to love themselves more, no matter what stage they’re at in their process. I believe that through nutrition, self-love, and healthy relationships, every woman can live to their fullest potential! Have you ever gotten in the way of your health goals? I would love to hear your story! Send your experiences to firstname.lastname@example.org and together we can empower each other to live beautiful, inspired lives!
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